10 Rules for you to keep you sane:

1) I can live without lady's slipper orchids.

2) I won't make my bridesmaids look like clones.

3) I won't invite my second cousin's fling.

4) I won't obsess over my registry.

5) I'll loosen up about the rehearsal dinner.

6) I'll write thank-you notes as the gifts come in.

7) I won't stress out about his bachelor party.

8) I won't have unrealistic weight expectations.

9) I won't let downers dampen my enthusiasm.

10) I'll make my album within one year of the wedding.

Stress Saver: Put Your Man to Work.....

You can't plan this wedding alone-you'll need his help.  One way to drum up more enthusiastic participation from your husband-to-be to help him find tasks that suit his talents.  He will be a lot happier about helping if he's doing something he enjoys.  For example, if your guy's a math whiz, let him keep track of the budget.  Or, if he's the creative type, turn him loose to invent some clever wedding favors.

The Wedding License

One Powerful Piece Of Paper
Without a license, your marriage won't be legal Educate yourselves early about state and county requirement, which can very greatly.
o Call your county clerk's office- ASAP to make sure you have time to gather the paperwork necessary for the application. Depending on the state the paper work may include notarized birth certificates and blood tests.
o Fees and waiting periods differ among the 50 states. In Wisconsin, couples must wait six days after applying to county. Wyoming duos, in contrast, have no waiting restrictions and everyone pays $25.
o Most licenses are issued at the time of application - Double-check this with your county clerk's office and be sure to take your state's waiting period into account before deciding when to apply. Just do not do it too early in some state (Hawaii, Delaware, Wisconsin), licenses are valid for only 30 days after issuance.
APPLY YOURSELF
In most states, the prospective bride and groom must apply for a marriage license together, in person. No proxies or stand-ins are allowed unless a waiver is granted. They apply at a municipal agency, usually the county clerk's office, in the town where they live. Out-of-state duos should apply in the town where they plan to wed.